9 Golden Rules of Confidence
Does Confidence Guarantee Success???
Of Course Yes!!!!!
The common wisdom maintains that the one thing everyone finds attractive in others is Confidence.
Margie walls, an author
says “Without it , you can do little, With it, you can do anything!
The reason that so many people never fulfill their potential is not a lack of intelligence, opportunity or resources, but a lack of belief in themselves. Or put another way, too little self-confidence.
But what is confidence, anyway?
Often people think of confidence as something that the lucky few are born with and the rest are left wishing for. Not true. Confidence is not a fixed attribute. It’s the outcome of the thoughts we think and the actions we take. No more- no less. It is not based on your actual ability to succeed at a task but your belief in your ability to succeed. For instance:
- Your belief in your ability to speak in front of an audience
- Your belief in your ability to learn a new technology
- Your belief in your ability to lead a team
- Your belief in your ability to handle confrontation or manage conflict
- Your belief in your ability to change job or career, exit a relationship, or start a business.
Moreover, Research has shown a correlation between confidence and success. It is also believed, confident people can handle whatever life throws at them and take more risks, which naturally leads to unlocking greater opportunities.
Confidence, is simply an awareness of who you are, regardless of how you compare or measure up to others. It shows people that you’re comfortable with yourself, which grants you a certain poise, charm, or assertiveness. Confidence is an asset that shines through personal relationships, your own relationship with yourself and relations at the workplace.
The best kind of confidence strikes the “Golden Balance” between self-doubt and Arrogance, allowing a person to embody his or her positive traits without bragging about them.
9 Golden Tips to build the confidence needed to overcome your challenges and achieve your goals?
Below are a few strategies, all backed by hard science, to help you on your way, beginning with the most powerful of them all.
1. Stop worrying about what people think.
Less confident people often can’t be present and their best selves if they’re constantly asking themselves questions such as: Did I come across as confident? Did they think that I was smart? Did they think that I was successful? Did they think what I said was stupid? In truth, you can never really know what someone else thinks of you. So, instead of worrying about it, concentrate on what you want to communicate, such as asking good questions, not engaging in time-wasting small talk, and looking people in the eyes.
Stop concerning yourself with the opinions of others, you must live your life for yourself. Do things that make you happy and that interest you. If an opportunity arises that you wish to explore, don’t think, just dive right in because that is the only way you are going to learn how to strive and to succeed on your own.
2. Eradicate Self Doubt
People tend to think on the positive side because they are secure in themselves and aren’t easily thrown off track. They take what life throws at them as it comes and react accordingly.
They do not allow these obstacles to distract them from the task at hand, rather they calmly and rationally manage whatever the situation is and move on with whatever it is they are doing.
It encourages positive thinking…
3. Know You are Human and it’s OK to Make Mistakes
How you handle slip-ups is also important. Confident people understand no one is perfect, and however you just screwed up, it’s probably not the end of the world. Ask yourself – How important will this mistake seem in three months? If your mistake involves work, acknowledge your flub and try to do better next time.
4. Ditch The Comfort Zone
Remember, the simplest advice can produce the strongest results. The single most powerful way to build confidence is to act with the confidence .
Speak up. Reach out. Stretch yourself. Exit your comfort zone!
When you do something that scares you, you know you are growing…… So go do something you haven’t been doing… make yourself uncomfortable.
Grow your knowledge and skills.
Growing confidence in our ability to make things happen!
Rather than playing to win, people become more fearful of loosing what they have. Their unwillingness to lay their reputation on the line leads to missing out bigger opportunities down the road; opportunities that go to those who’ve never stopped stretching, growing, learning and strengthening their confidence along the way.
.. If you don’t use it, you lose it!
4. Get good at public speaking.
If this isn’t your strength, find opportunities to build this important skill. Practice Practice & practice. If it seems rather scary, simply take Public Speaking classes. This can help you connect with people better.
5. Power Poser
Right now I challenge you to stand up tall, shoulders back, chin up, smile confidently and move like you’ve got this.That’s because when we shift our physical state, it shifts our mental and emotional state. Harvard Professor Amy Cuddy has found, putting ourselves in a “Power Pose” literally changes our physiology releasing a hearty dose of testosterone to fuel our bravery.
6. Focus On What You Want
What you put your attention on amplifies in your reality. Focus on things that make you anxious, and you’ll become more anxious. Focus on things that inspire you, and you’ll feel more powerful. As world champion surfer Layne Beachley says: “Focus on what inspires you, not on what scares you.”
Confidence Breeds Confidence.
7. Invest in your Appearance.
Whether this means buying a new outfit, getting a good haircut, fixing dental problems, or seeing an aesthetician, people who look good on the outside feel better on the inside. In fact, research has shown that when people think they are more physically attractive, they really do start to act more Confident.
It conveys confidence, regardless of what you’re really thinking. Plus, many studies have found that smiling is highly correlated with whether or not a person is perceived as likeable.
9. Find a Trainer/ Mentor/ Hero/ Inspiration
Think of someone you greatly admire who radiates a quiet sense of confidence, and think about what they would do or say if they were facing your current challenges and opportunities. Channel their self-confidence, certitude and bravery.
And Finally Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day.
Confidence is a skill and skill can only be developed through constant repetition. Make these little changes a part of your life. It will take some time, but soon your friends, peers and colleagues will notice you sparkle with this new found confidence.
More Power To You !!!!